“Once Upon A Time…” The start of a story. A phrase which holds nestled in the spaces between the words, a world of possibility, an unknown adventure- be it thrilling, challenging or just downright scary.
Since we were small, we have been told stories; grown up with a narrative. Through the drama we watch, novels or blogs we read and the tales we absorb on a day to day basis. We take them for granted perhaps, as they twist in and out of our lives.
But what about the story of you?
What is the story you have told yourself?
What is the story that others have about what makes you, you? How does this change depending on the company you keep, your surroundings or the scenario which is unfolding at any given time?
How can we make a change in our work, if we feel our story is already laid out before us?
And, how can we pick up a pen and take steps to write a new chapter?
As a psychosynthesis leadership coach and consultant, I often work with people who want to embark on a new journey – to take a new direction in their work, but who feel stuck by limiting patterns. I provide individuals with the skills to evaluate and explore new possibilities; to be brave and to reimagine their stories. How? Well, here’s a start…
1. The vision of your story
Think about your working life – what is good right now, what do you want to keep in the picture, and what do you want to build on? Your vision board gives you a chance to create a full backdrop – your work, your personal interests, your family life, the things which make you tick. There are not any rules, and you can’t mess it up, so be confident pinning out the splashy and bold colors of you.
2. The players in your story
Who are the people who lift you up, who challenge and inspire? Created by Zella King and Amanda Scott, The Personal Boardroom is a tool which helps us to identify the key players in our network. This model helps you select each person and their role within your life- be that as your “Improver – someone who gives candid, constructive feedback on your performance and development”, your “Challenger – someone who challenges your decisions and thinking and helps you see your errors and blind spots” or your “Unlocker – someone who provides access to resources such as money, data, people’s time.”
By developing your personal boardroom, you can start to identify the relationships in your life, which can support you in taking a new direction.
Start by thinking about who you can help – create a circle of energy which will build and grow. Kindness is catching. Reach out to those people in your life who will take your hand and jump with you.
3. Outside story
What job would you do if you could do anything in the world? Greg McKeown talks about our Highest Point of Contribution– the intersectional point where our passion, the market and our talent come together. It’s easy to “stick” in life- to stay where we are because we don’t know how to get “unstuck.” Greg asks us to identify what is essential in our working lives, and to eliminate the rest- to streamline and “purposefully, deliberately, and strategically eliminate the non-essentials.” We are surrounded by noise – what we should, shouldn’t, could, and can’t do. The Highest Point of Contribution helps us to zoom into our strengths and dream bigger stories.
Create a “crush list” of companies or people with whom you feel aligned. What gets your out of bed in the morning? Is it purpose led initiatives, fast growing industries, innovative or new technologies? Find out. Interrogate and ask questions of yourself in order to navigate the next steps in your journey.
4. Inside story
Who is center stage right now? Which parts of your personality are you allowing to shine, and which parts are standing back? Psychosynthesis coaching asks you to step into your inner world. To look at how we turn limiting patterns into catalysts for change. This work enables you to ask questions of the quieter, more vulnerable parts of yourself- the parts which may be afraid of failure or of new challenges.
Our personalities are complex and multi-dimensional…”Sofa And Chips You” is not the same as “Boardroom You” and that’s ok. We show the world different parts of ourselves… Is there a part of you which needs some space to be seen? Some nurturing perhaps? Start to ask questions of your dominant personalities – how are they serving you, and how might they be holding you back? By understanding these different elements of ourselves, we can choose whether we identify or dis-identify with them… to clearly see the picture and to orchestrate the next part of our story from a place of full awareness.
“Once upon a time…” The rest is up to you.
Post by Lily Lapenna MBE
Lily Lapenna MBE is a serial entrepreneur, having founded and run MyBnk, a global social impact business for 10 years she is now CEO of a Leadership Consulting & Coaching Company that works with individuals and teams from start-ups to FTSE 100 companies to increase performance, self awareness and impact.